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A dandy therapist

Flexibility is the new strength. Mindfulness and meditation are not optional; they are the price of admission.

The Therapy is Dandy Guide to Having a Parent for a Narcissist. Chapter 25. This is the blog where I tell you nothing is free. If you want to improve your relationship to your own feelings and your relationship to … Continue reading

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The Holy Grail, Unicorns, Bigfoot, Narcissists who validate our feelings, and other mythical inventions that do not exist.

The Therapy is Dandy Guide to Having a Parent for a Narcissist. Chapter 24. Well, well. Look what’s back. “Just when I thought I was out, they pull me back in!” The thing about writing about narcissists that I have … Continue reading

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Summertime Blues, Loss and Depression

I know, I know. I hate the title of this one too. The good news is that after this post, you will see much less of a mopey attitude. Promise. Today’s enemy, today’s sermon, today’s you-get-points-for-just-reading, is all about unexpressed … Continue reading

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You may not be able to have it all, but you can live without so much fear.

Another it’s-summer-and-the–heat-makes-me-cranky post, but this one involves Epicurus who, if you didn’t already know, is probably your favorite ancient Greek philosopher. Epicurus’s philosophical and life focus was regarding happiness. What it is, what it is not, and how we can … Continue reading

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Summertime Emotional Repression

The weather in Portland yesterday got to an uncomfortable 98 degrees. That is approximately 370 degrees Celsius for my readers in Canada (and all the other beautiful parts of the world—Dobar Dan, Bonjour, Hallo, etc.) Nothing speaks to me of … Continue reading

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Emotionally Camouflaged Language: Confidence

When I started writing this entry a long while ago, what I was most inspired by was this clip that was on The Daily Show during the Winter Olympics in Sochi. It is probably not something you can play out loud at … Continue reading

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Best inspirational quote of the year (so far).

This little gem floated across the internets early on Monday and I was totally blown away by it. I hope you like it too. “The most successful people recognize that in life they create their own love, they manufacture their … Continue reading

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Gabor Mate

I have a current client to thank for sharing this video of Dr. Gabor Mate. He speaks about attachment, the nature of stress and stress hormones on the body and mind, our culture of medicating psychological disorders, and the fears … Continue reading

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Reading List Update.

Okay, so it’s just one book this time, but one I think will be very useful for anyone who is or who has struggled with emotionally abusive relationships. The name of it, no surprise here, is The Emotionally Abusive Relationship … Continue reading

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Emotionally Camouflaged Language

“After that, the weekend was a nightmare.” “I’ve invested too much at this point to leave.” “It is going to require a great deal of purging before a resolution occurs.” In the three examples above, zero in on the words … Continue reading

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