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Shame and Patience

Picking right up with the last post on the Shame Sandwich, I just wanted to leave a brief note about shame and patience. I have been thinking about patience a lot and noticing our collective lack of patience pretty much … Continue reading

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Avoiding the Shame Sandwich

I agree with you, that is a terrible name for a post. But it makes great snarky sense if you recall that way back in 2013 I wrote the original post, The Shame Sandwich. This time we will be revisiting … Continue reading

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2017 The year we didn’t really want.

Back in the blog seat after a very long holiday season. I hope you all are feeling warm and cozy. 2017 seems to be the year that is starting off in a way that can’t help but have a profound … Continue reading

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Happy New Year!

Be kind to those you meet. And that starts with being kind to yourself first. Take care. We have lots more to talk about in 2017.

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Self Compassion in the Age of Terror Sharing

2016 is really turning out to be a year we all wish we could forget, isn’t it? I know I am still trying to figure out how to grieve for the passing of David Bowie and the hits keep coming. … Continue reading

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Fragile is the new moist.

I get asked from time to time what does my weird, professional world view of people make me think about, I don’t know, the variety and differences in human suffering. Fair question to a counselor, I suppose. So the word … Continue reading

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The Lego model of your brain

This is the entry that I try to finish the week before going on holiday. So to make it somewhat easier I thought I would try to combine psychology and Lego. Here it goes. In the past few weeks, with … Continue reading

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The Therapy is Dandy Vulnerability Scale.

Time for something different, and an actual tool to use with all of the latest talk around our own vulnerability. I perused the internet and didn’t find a very exciting scale already out there, so I decided we can make … Continue reading

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How is this (other) person feeling right now?

That’s the question that starts us off this time. It is part mindfulness, part emotional intelligence, part je ne sais quoi. It’s the opposite of emotional reactivity. Indeed, when we are being emotionally reactive, that is exactly what is preventing … Continue reading

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Donald Trump

The Therapy is Dandy’s Guidebook to having a Narcissist for a Parent (and Potential President). Chapter 26. If my calendar is right, it has been since November of 2014 since I have added a new “chapter” to the guidebook. Happy … Continue reading

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