Tag Archives: counseling
Shame and Patience
Picking right up with the last post on the Shame Sandwich, I just wanted to leave a brief note about shame and patience. I have been thinking about patience a lot and noticing our collective lack of patience pretty much … Continue reading
How is this (other) person feeling right now?
That’s the question that starts us off this time. It is part mindfulness, part emotional intelligence, part je ne sais quoi. It’s the opposite of emotional reactivity. Indeed, when we are being emotionally reactive, that is exactly what is preventing … Continue reading
Professional Interruptions Part 2. The Car Accident.
Or how to interrupt your internal negative critic. As much I said this post is a continuation on the professional interrupting idea from last time, I have to acknowledge that this is also about the nature of emotion and how … Continue reading
People want to be right.
Therapy can be hard. I know I haven’t posted a lot recently, but it’s because therapy can be really hard. I mean the kind of hard that makes you hate it. It can make you hate yourself, hate your therapist, … Continue reading
The Second Arrow
Happy New Year! So, this post is really about me reposting an old Buddhist story that originated in the Sallatha Sutta. Read it and enjoy. I don’t have a whole lot of new commentary for it, other than I think … Continue reading
Throw out all your psychic armor.
The Therapy is Dandy Guidebook to having a Narcissist for a Parent. Chapter 23. An ongoing survival guide. Throw out all your psychic armor. This entry is partially inspired by this, currently at the Portland Art Museum. It’s pretty easy … Continue reading
So what are my needs, anyway?
The Therapy is Dandy Guidebook to having a Narcissist for a Parent. Chapter 22. An ongoing survival guide. So what are my needs, anyway? (because there are no guarantees anybody else will tell you). So here we are then: aware … Continue reading
The people who sell anniversary cards have a lot answer for. I’m looking at you, Hallmark. There is no such thing as an anniversary card for a really fucking terrible anniversary. Like rape, a traumatic car accident, the death of … Continue reading
Things don’t always mean what you think they mean in therapy. Part 4.
I love hearing stories about experience with other therapists. I think it is a very important thing to pay attention to. Especially when people make comments or complaints about being confused by what their therapist does or doesn’t do in … Continue reading